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Original Address: 【Reference】 most complete thick black school - to teach you how to mix the original of the Social: Lovery-kong a lot of people mingled now nothing, or think nothing. A lot of people mingled feeling now is a failure , or unsuccessful. A lot of people mingled now flies to feel boring, had a very mechanical, flies have not thought and heart. We admire the success of every person in society, the envy of the rich side, envy of every car around the cars roaring past. We always have this thought: Damn, how I fared so badly? Yes ah, how I fared so badly? year class (around) as I how that guy so well developed now? Keep your eyes sour, let me tell you how mixed society. this only for friends struggling in terms of mixed society, that work hard, get little money, status is not High, injured many, the former no way out of no backing, the future lost, goals for a class of people missing.
one, friends
1, mixed society, the basic configuration.
whole life, not years alone, there must be friends, if you want a qualified civilians, as long as the law-abiding, and that making friends with your temper, you are willing to pay to pay, do not want to let him roll. but you want to mix out in the community something for, you have to selectively friends, there are utilitarian to friends. for the average people, circle of friends at least have to have a doctor, a lawyer, a young officer, a policeman, a teacher, a name of local hooligans.
why I say that, in fact, these friends, the usual basically do not need, the general circle of friends more than co-workers, classmates, neighbors, because we usually deal with friends, drinking with friends to sing a bath, also the circle, and if there is no definite purpose, who will contact a lawyer or to deliberate a rogue do?
doctors, lawyers, police, teachers, seem to rarely used these common friends, the key moment was the can save your urgent or difficult, and some can save your life! to the hospital, a doctor friend is worth celebrating, save the innocent Aizai fee is small, rational drug use materials, for you to contact his own heart medicine superb clear the good doctor to help you see the doctor this is the real essential help. the role of lawyers, we should all know that the key you are in trouble luck, he can pull you a strong one. Police have not said often mixed in society, how can I not wet shoes, cars were detained, the person checked out, basically these things have a Council friend to help you, you do not eat much burned. The role of the teacher after the friends have children at home speaking, of course, huge.
Some people say that the police know of these useless teachers of general practitioners, for example, you see a physician, ENT friends can not help; you want to help the son of tuition English language teacher does not take. put all these issues is doomed in the community who fared relatively low. Are these people do not have their own circle of friends? ENT's friends that he can not get medical friends? school language teacher colleagues no one to teach English? you contact them friends at the same time, in fact, with his circle of friends who had common ground. to recognize that more prospective middle class, then why are not you a better chance?
officials, rogue. with an official friends, even friends of the benefits of a grass-roots civil service numbers, I think the earth to know. On this basis, the official the better, corresponding, at the probability will become smaller friends. As for why there must be a rogue troll friends, many people do not understand, is actually very simple at this stage of society, a lot of things in daily life, with these friends to solve, than any other methods are much more simple and effective, but not unrestricted use, side effects of his is quite large, not only with costs is not possible, consider how the specific price, please precise calculation.
For a more luxurious configuration, to have the better, such as the circle of friends, there are rich, more than seven officials of goods , a boss, a second-generation ancestor, there is a fork length of cattle, such as the circle of friends and then there are Obama, Bill Gates, then it's no mixed society, called the play of social .2, how you want to pay the handed friends.
Nothing is difficult for one person shenanigans. to make friends at once handed to close friends, this is impossible, but if you carefully designed, at least, can be submitted to the general fair-weather friends, and for utilitarian friends, to achieve , words of, and a few drink down, not a fake friend is a pseudo-brother. and for some people, to pay down his hobby down, never miss. who live in the world, impossible not to love, if you that a person does not love, it means you did not. He likes to eat and drink, eat and drink with him; he likes to sing and dance, singing and dancing with him; he likes to play innocent mounted art, poetry and songs to accompany him. so it goes a few times, not He does not worry you know has been cited as at least is also enthusiasts.
friends have two points of detail, and willing to listen, if you will point the wind blows much the better. willing to be willing to respect the money, you want the intersection useful friends, but also extremely stingy, then had to ask you to continue struggling. Another point is to listen, this is actually very important, why do you like the leadership meeting? because there are a lot of people listen to his speech is too cool, why do psychologists and at almost every patient as friends? because they can hold back the urge patients not smoke forever, anti can come up with a look like the audience to relish. more fast-paced society, more and more selfish population, the number of people willing to listen to your sick making a fuss over there? When you learn to speak a little boring, and more patience to listen, your shrewdness be considered somewhat small deep, your friends will be more and more.
As to how to recognize these friends of different industries, said it incredible, is really very simple. Americans have done a very interesting experiment, they want to see a random number of layers between ordinary people to be recognized by entertainment in a star or a top political figures, numerous tests shows that a random stranger, up to eight-relations, we can find the movie stars or politicians. relationships were essentially similar to the friend of a friend's father understanding of star neighbor aunt's nephew and the like. But what is certain is that everyone can find them through the layers of relationship! star still can be found through the efforts, not to mention ordinary people of various industries? or old saying goes: Nothing is impossible , I'm afraid scheming people. 3, how to weave their own web of relationships as nodes.
resources to master so many friends, if left unused or used only when it is critical to pity. any mix in the community have wind and water, he must be both ways, at least on the surface he is a capable civilian eyes, can be done, most people can not do some of the events, most people find some people who can not find. such a person, --- Spider-Man is a good weave their own as a network of nodes.
So how to weave this net? that simple point, that is, Qian Kun Da Nuo + grafting the group, the relationship with a friend things to help a friend B, then C B friends of friends to do the relationship thing. words are good, it sounds beautiful, practical to do it particularly annoying, a bad on both sides are easily offended. so most people find it troublesome, so big Some people were civilians. weave a net that is the big consumption of energy, but once formed, you are MAD. When you take the bridge take the line, the more careful measurement and careful action, make some more successful cases, unconsciously, you will find the capabilities of your ability to think beyond the.
PS: never any of the provisions and principles of superstition. Road King Infrastructure Chairman Wei Pao once said a few words argot: Never bow to concessions in the face of difficulties, the world is any difficulty you must have a walk through to go around to the road. I like this sentence, but also do a lot of difficulties and requirements in the face of seemingly can not resolve problems, but always find a way through or around or walk or go. 4, how to maximize their own interests.
utilitarian purpose of dating is to achieve investment in the real minimum and maximum benefit. some generous friends like someone else, but because they have difficult to find people face little help, this is a complete fool. Friends of the basic role is to help each other, even from one level to maintain in terms of help each other is also a friend of the bond. you know a friend, just want to help him, let him help himself, you want to die I Lei Feng Lei? In fact, if you're asked for the help of friends, friends only when the next time you peace of mind to help , communication up and we will be awkward or tweaking. number of more than one friend will be able to develop into deep friend. This is a subtle psychological relationship, a lot of good use.
Another situation is, your a Friends occasionally need ten thousand tons of coal smoke, your friends just to sell B media without marriage, but B did not know. In this case, how would you do? a buddy said, this easy to get Well, They introduced know not to become? that I want to congratulate the man, you have half as Wu Bai, a.
correct approach is emphasized in a friend in front of all the difficulties, but they will try any help him to fight; in B Friends in front of all the difficulties and stresses, but they will fight to try any help to him. you play karate, make pen post, incidentally, two more die-hard friends. other things, to carry out, long past, certainly revealed the secret. so to analyze the situation, there selective implementation of benefit maximization.
PS: the examples, very simple, but really is not easy to do everything. playing with fire, high-wire act could play out a hierarchy of levels, which can be called a duck to water, mixed have handy. 5, how to distinguish between friends.
order is basically this: a true friend , but not everyone can really have. each individual life can turn in one or two can be. Which I really friends if a dozen, and that this friend of your heart too much. This Friend talk about anything that is in you unconditionally pull you a desperate, is the first one of your phone number, your car breaks down late at night to wake him at the halfway called quasi-come, is that you were arrested prostitutes first thought after that to find a guarantor.
not Need Friends That said, what the real estate owner, the party secretary and the like. you sure he is your friend after this is called Need ... ...
friends like best buddies, in particular, to play that kind of relationship second only to true friends, the number is very rare. This friend is a friend to lend him money, as the relationship between the amount of depth given the number of loans. utilitarian Friend refers aforementioned friend. generally broad range of friends, acquaintances, friends can also call the general. From strange bedfellows to a nodding acquaintance, and generally can be called friends, most of these friends can not borrow money, but a small amount of money, that is checked out Do not try to go back to that. Second, the mixed quality of social self-cultivation.
1, how to treat their own quality
mentioned this problem, a lot of friends will not help to think of education, work experience, job skills, a variety of certificates, returnees, results, poetry and painting, and so respected in society, . cite a simple example, can drink is a skill!
the its greatest role is to society you are a stepping stone of a door, it can prove, but you used to be a very small range is excellent, it can not fully prove your value in society beyond!
We often see examples of a unit community, some people grumble: MD, I graduated from key universities, the ability to highlight excellent work, how to compare that so and so flattering to be useless. In fact, can be understood, you key institutions of the diploma, with a mix of the flatterers and the leadership is entirely a bad ratio, in your place in the small environment, you are the only skills that are not suitable for the small environment. this is rather cruel, some frustrating, but I only speak with the facts, after all, school education, social education is very different now.
I want to say is: Why are you always complaining it? Why can not you do a have a key institutions diploma, ability to highlight the excellent work of flatterers? Here a friend of disdain: the cutting, garbage, I'd rather be, would not do such a shameful event. flatterers do not fallen, and flatterer is not a derogatory term.
some friends or some self-esteem, always feel that people who want to discover their own strengths and weaknesses, you said you would play cards are the advantages or disadvantages?
and others at the friends you want, but you learn a few years ago Zhigu actively avoid Wanwusangzhi, never touch cards, online games , snooker these seemingly boring things. so you do not, like, I would like to ask in the community, what is a silver tongue will point people tend to place friends, or you do not touch this smart entertainment, people tend to place?
A friend also said, to learn first, other second bad it? as you say, I play good Guzhe. Do not be so understanding, I would say most people are ordinary people in society , this road is only suitable for learning the book a few players of genius, you can not do the scientific community who ultimately have to fall into mortal, in the mortal world, will play cards and certificates in English six times as important! reason why you The first book will know that learning this truth, your parents and teachers taught the students the results of long-term, but took to the community before, you do not know the question.
end of this section, I used the facts speak for it. enumerated ancient kings, you will find that the basic two parts, in part, hereditary, that is, mouth, Golden Key was born as kings, part of the roots of the most vulgar people, many of them man of pleasure, poor wretch, rogue troll. they have nothing So daring Ganpin, they lost no loss, so there are big courage, they have no knowledge but the wisdom so and succeed. And those very smart, read, read good books, but enough to live comfortably in the community has made a fortune can not people doing? doing advisers, doing civil officials, are doing grand. Zhuge Liang Wu emperor with the class why not, chieftains?
Similarly, the community is now the big boss of fortunes , chairman of the board are backing what? There are several Peking Tsinghua? junior doctor under the leadership of then normal. But a closer look to them, except for that part of the hereditary, the first generation of entrepreneurs, the basic qualification is not too high There is also the day after tomorrow The height is not merely come by their own hard times the opportunities the environment, their opportunities for small environment is indispensable. I'm just that one, the vast society, highly educated does not mean that high-quality, high amount of alcohol is not on behalf of high-quality, no one thing is constant, with high-tech employers have appreciated the leadership and the leadership by the boss to drink to accompany the boss appreciated by the leadership of two findings and interests are exactly the same, the key is the second point, how to locate play to their quality, how to identify the location of their fields! 2, how to position their own quality
depends on many aspects of human quality, but in mixed society, the self-respect, good character is the first one, The intelligence out in the second. improve many aspects of the character but also, generally speaking one is calm and collected, and second, how the wind blows. quietly is for their own emotions, feelings, personality timely and appropriate control, a clear understanding of their own ability to clearly know where each role, not to exceed, not retreat, try to play their role to the best state. And how the wind blows is the observation of others, in the exchanges observed in the character of others, capabilities, advantages and disadvantages, what is clear the other stuff, so choose an appropriate response. these two hard to do, especially in control of himself, really hard, from the little things, these two points as a habit, Over time, you will gradually mature in the eyes of others.
tips: first out of college, and inexperienced people who often feel deeply do not know how the people with all kinds of community deal with their peers so that more, with other roles, such as the boss, elders, people like taxi drivers, no topic, often a number of scenes, some people even know the first time to talk as if people are particularly speculative, and you seem to do very little about . this situation is normal, everyone is starting from this step, where I do not want to teach you what to look for common ground the two sides go down the other side ah ah like the words of the complexity of the method, one of the most simple method is to look at a particular address will be how social friends, and how one by one topic leads. just beginning to see, and learn, imitate, the last test, even if the point has nothing wrong, stick to it, long past, you The skills will be a rapid unconsciously.
this state when you reach maturity, you will be more sensible to look at the quality of their own, do not despise myself, but never see the high ourselves and with others to you wear a tall hat to know the truth in others, then you can slander contempt confidence. On this basis, do basically very measured piece and learn to plan effectively promoting stable.
higher than mature step is sophisticated, than the ways of the world is a little more into the Jian Hua, Jianhua more than a layer is that you do not know, can not see who he is. This is called the fine people who are generally larger bureaucracy and business sale .
Another is the positioning of their work. not bad work, only the wrong location, this sentence is correct, but did not make any sense. like I say you are humans, right, but not significance. a lot of people out of school, found himself in the context of the study could not find work; some work done for some time and found that they can not tolerate this kind of work. Then, we will be looking for work not to look for counterparts, looking for not looking struggle among their favorite work, wandering.
have a good idea for everyone in this community out of the university's postgraduate research results, any of a first class university can not be found.
II before the age of fifteen volatile industry, the three-year-old before the volatile work, thirty-year-old is not easily fixed after the winter pen.
volatile trade before the twenty-five years old. This means that even if you garden on the University is professional, not later necessarily have to catch the point in the relationship between the environment, chances are good you will play the first-hand piano, which bars employment your hands for the piano, which is the kind of work do not have to regret that the University of white on the the like, in the current China, the University of skills of the greatly weakened, and a computer science students, graduates may not know where the memory plug, write a simple loop program; a medical class of students, school years are not as good internship year may be harvested. II fifteen years ago, in one area can re-learn, re-started, because young and can afford to fail.
thirty Adventitious work. thirty years ago, you must determine an industry, such as stainless steel or sold When a teacher or being a painter, because these industries require a lot of time and effort to become familiar with and master, but the work place and time is not fixed, you can quit again after careful consideration, until you find one you satisfied with the unit , company, team. as though you is not too young, but you do not pay, you can afford to toss.
thirty-year-old is not easily fixed after the winter pen. thirty-year-old, your life is in no way how accidental, the basic shape, nor do I believe that you are a field that you have some of their own prestige and status. the most important, the stability of your family, children born, the parents gradually decline, and you become the backbone of the family. In this case, caution is certainly not a bad thing.
above are general rules, if there are special circumstances, for the non-mainstream, without repeat.
a friend asked, I have such and such a skill, I have such and such a capacity, you see I can do? It is not good responses, each person is not get the same opportunities, Peking University graduates can sell pork. their own comprehensive analysis of their own character and ability to see something they are not dry the material, such as the Internet is also a night out to buy bread, when the supper, it was a buy and run, think of the game and ate side; some people are concerned about the thickness of this cake size, they are not buying a deficit; the one who took note of recent business selling cakes are particularly good, can not help earn him calculate the number today, except the monthly net profit after cost, but also look around there are similar stalls traffic how much, how many people buy bread, so a bunch of data. Congratulations to last the students, a little business your mind, why the Chinese rarely KFC closed down, its market research and preliminary research is coming your way 3. how to develop their own quality
First I want to ask a very old problem: If you paralyzed tomorrow, you reflect on the previous time, who does not regret?
I think most people would in a more or less Some aspects of regret. Some regret not learn, some people regret not to fancy the girl bubble to get started, it was a regret not to seize the opportunity.
numerous articles are telling you, regrets are useless, we must move forward look. which was a nonsense, sorry do not know who did not use? The key is how do you feel regret, I think even if you've been playing online games the past, neglected their studies, barren of love. It is not regret, because you play the game enjoyed it, been happy. How many people are looking for can not find a simple pleasure, you can have, is enough. life in the final analysis, is the ultimate fun, absolutely do not want to work hard as a normal rushing hundred years, how much time is their own? I advise you not negative, the fact that you However, the cost of this to burn the joy of life desirable, alcohol, tobacco of the same nature, Notice is hereby given.
so after the events of the past do not regret it all depends on your understanding, in fact, I always feel that God is fair It shut your window, will open a door for you. For example, we often sympathize with people with intellectual disabilities, that they are poor, in fact, their hearts pure, there is happiness far more than you and me. < br> sure I do not regret it later, do not want you to go to indulge, but you throw away the mental burden of properly mixed. from now on to find a higher level of enjoyment and work.
when you the mentality of no regret to recall the past, you can clearly see their character, weaknesses, past failures to understand, to the maximum extent possible the journey in the future to avoid failure. Remembrance is a review and summary, and regret In addition to bringing you down nothing can outside.
I like some of the young people encountered many setbacks, they look realistic compared to peers, mature, strong, much more smoothly the children who usually looks more radical , arrogant, vulnerable. I even suggested that small to large are failure, but you almost can destroy the spiritual pillar of the kind of bitter, get up from this pool of blood in the reconstruction of the spiritual support of children is very strong. language is bloody, but focuses on the importance of failure and frustration reminded. A always successful people fail, the fight against a bigger, or even stand up forever.
many young people now have a anxiety, they always want the fastest success or to be successful, always wanted to catch a opportunity to immediately turn over from the current difficult situation, they always think of the great work, that the word is always passionate extremely entrepreneurial.
I do not want to blow this precious passion, but I really hope you can fully prepared, including any detail, the most important thing is preparation for failure to do once. For lack of entrepreneurs in terms of experience and detailed planning opportunities than some so-called specious more important.
said so more bedding, I specifically talk about how to mention the actual combat in the community's own quality. in society, progress, progress in actual combat in the community, university president said at the graduation ceremony --- note that in terms of graduation , not the opening ceremony, society is not absolutely fair; community will not wait for you to grow! it can not control your school and society in a major psychological gap.
one is to choose the right skills, such as you are a rural from employee, you have such a sense that if I engaged in this work, in addition to money, what can I get? I've seen some people do in an electronic factory job, is to some a piece of electronic components into the circuit board, every day, day after day. this kind of work can bring you pay, the other little, day plant down, you still follow disband. so even if more than one day hundred years, you still can not an ordinary one of the migrant workers. must have a sense of learning, there must be awareness of learning skills climb, year Ah, and Asan, an electronics factory doing the work apprentice in a school to do welding, five years later, Ah or electronic factory workers, Asan learned alloy steel welding, high pass rate, his salary and status far more than the A II. This is promising work and Learning with the crystallization.
know what I mean by it? if only on the bottom of the work to do, you should try to find something to work and learn with a strong desire to learn, in addition to the lottery, this is your the most realistic chance of emancipation.
second is the potential to learn. Some people are less patient, as is always done in a short time, learn things are turning back, this is the most taboo practices in the company, units in hard work, to learn the skills learned slowly, in turn won the get the certificate, the company that you hopping cursed boss, work unit that always play the yin to your head is not stupid, when you can be hard enough to endure the time to grow up slowly, you will find he is also slowly transforming your attitude, because he found it was important to you. And this time you look at the outside, N number of companies are waving to you , higher paying job is not the dream. Then one morning, you're wearing suit and politely to a resignation letter on the boss before, his face than you were definitely a big fight with him not to be outdone After the slamming doors and walking is much more cool when you.
I believe that if you select the right goals, perseverance, sweat and tears pay a considerable, your harvest will definitely value for money. And I said, the basic all we can do.
person's life before the age of forty four major turning point in terms of, education, employment, marriage, career.
small studies in the University, nothing to talk about , in addition to the autonomy of the university you are more or less, the other arrangements for your parents first, second, you do not have to choose. is that you can take the skills learned in school to learn good skills or to master a few people will be the skills, which is very good for your future development. The problem is not many young people at this stage willing to pay, we thought not mature enough to plan to four-year-old after a dozen two-year-old boy, is not so many things to consider, pass the exam, crazy fun, love making friends, not enough time to sleep these few do, how can so much energy to seriously study skills. an electronic information engineering, and in the end have mastered the matter sorted chip technology After the teacher to design and make very few experiments, and these people go out after paying all real people. But the key is that very few people do this, it is paid by the sweat too much, that, as long as anyone knows who the profession.
skills as to what is good, this really can not compare the income of Chinese Academy of Sciences won a school may not have more than five years of carpentry contractors to general case, personal opinion, is not the first key university under the less important compared to the importance of a good professional, a good professional on the road in the community will be very broad, and a first-class professional popular university in the having failed to make the community is. For example the archaeological profession and the Peking University Institute of Economic Investigation of a police specialty ... ... mean, you know?
choice or study skills, is the first turning point in your life. But very few people will take this turning point, are age and experience to reach, then stand sits a confused parent, you probably threw a broad road from the foot of the trail. Even worse, this situation is too much. So, so, when you set foot on the turning point when the brothers and sisters, do not forget to help horse, get one-way. Moreover, before the twenty-five years old, this turning point, or in your hands!
PS: picking a major, One of the most important point, many people tend to overlook! in the choice of profession before, by no means the first to see how the profession how easy job how hot the fire. The first thing to do is: put all the family relationship comb again, regardless what the seven eight-aunt, she can count on all to find out, analyze them in power, there is the location of areas in which relatives and friends, followed by analysis see if I can find a move, looking to find a moving , have the money and running, as long as the real reliable, and to be able to apply for professional development in his hands! such as your uncle in a large shipyard when the deputy director, you will analyze whether the next four to five years he was in office, whether --- an accident that these bit cruel, but you have no way to sober analysis, grasp the cover if available, to report a shipbuilding majors, after the employment development will definitely be much smoother!
employment is also a turning point Along the way some people learn, PubMed doctoral study, the trend out in the artificial lure, the thirty-year-old began to enter into society, get a fairly middle of the job, looked back and the guy next door to go out Kenshin Seventeen-year-old dropped out of school, Garment factory owner to help open the car a few years, relied on clever people learned some clothing tips for their home routine and opened a small clothing workshop, and now all the car house mistress. What do you say called? read it Some of the book, the cost of paying too much in the end still can not successfully make the best of all its youth, if once destroyed is not considered desirable in this life, and this bet too much. Therefore, I urge you, IQ Medium Learning to stop, early employment opportunities in society, in the ivory tower than you the opportunity to much more desperate. even if you are the location and nature of employment is very bad, as long as you put your heart, definitely have the opportunity to achieve something. of course If you do not mind not get good results, do not call me advise you to not pursue a Ph.D. degree, you must enroll in a Ph.D. in so much momentum, do you fight in the community can not?
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